And while numbers on scams are similarly hard to come by, the FBI's Internet Crime Complaint Center reported 5,600 cases of online dating scams back in 2011.The trendy and easy-to-use apps that are making online dating more accessible could theoretically also be making it much easier for scammers and creeps to find new victims.Naturally, as soon as the post went up, the apologists where there with their favorite questions and complaints. By that morning, she was pronounced dead at the hospital.Because she didn’t want to go to the prom with somebody who was by all accounts a popular and well-liked student at her high-school.For an inexperienced online dater, danger lurks at every corner.
Then comes the email saying, "I can't go through with this.In less extreme – but no less threatening or disturbing – examples, women will tell you about the times they’ve been followed, yelled at, grabbed or even on because they didn’t want to talk to somebody. Women are socialized over and over again to be deferential to men; it’s “polite” for women to use indirect language, especially when dealing with men. Over and over again, women are socialized to not trust their instincts and ignore red flags… A friend of mine has given far too much head-space towards trying to understand her personal creeper’s side of things because she’s been taught it’s better to ignore her gut and give him the benefit of the doubt over and over again. because they’re even more afraid of disappointing him. Women are continually pressured to “give the guy a chance” and to understand that “he’s just a little awkward” or that “he’s a nice guy” and she had to be mistaken. An “I’d love to, but I’m busy that day”, for example, is a soft no.Because she didn’t want to give him her phone number. Because she didn’t want to go home with him, to be touched, fondled, kissed or otherwise just did not want to accede to that individual’s demands of the moment. So is a “Maybe some other time.” So is pretending to misunderstand an offer, ignoring it entirely or even just what’s going on – they just don’t like the answer. Hitchhikers, rocket scientists, even nuns probably do it, at least once. Then there are other dangers -- boredom, disillusionment, getting dumped, or simply getting taken.The topic is dating, and the custom is as old as Adam and Eve. Two love experts offer their dating advice: Face it; finding a great mate takes some research.